The first few days with Jack home have been fantastic! When we were discharging him from the NICU, we asked about feeding schedules. At the NICU he got really used to eating/being changed every 3 hours. The nurses told us our goal would be every 2-4 hours; set an alarm for 4 hours after he last eats because some babies don’t wake up when they first get home. Adam and I laughed, thinking “yeah, right, we’re going to get woken up every hour.” Nope! Little Jack enjoys his sleepy time. The past two nights I’ve had to set my alarm to wake up and feed him. He is not too happy being woken up.
Wednesday the boys had big days! Jack had his first pediatrician appointment with Dr. Moore (who is amazing) and Sam took both his bottles! He’s now moving up the pathway and can attempt to bottle/breastfeed three times a day. Yesterday they decided to move Sam to the “Skywalk” unit. Beautiful! Private bathroom, a spare crib for Jack, room service, double bed, TV… it’s fantastic! If we didn’t have Mya at home I would be living there 🙂
Adam left yesterday afternoon and won’t be back until Sunday. He’s doing interviews in Wichita, KS and Westchester, NY. I’ve only been a LITTLE overwhelmed! How do single parents do it?! Granted, most of them don’t have newborn twin boys in two different locations with no family around. But still!
The boys’ due date is just around the corner…. January 25. And it’s really gotten me thinking, yet again, about everything we’ve been through the past 9 weeks. Selfishly, it’s also made me realize how sad I am that my pregnancy was so atypical. …
-I never got “big”- even for being pregnant with twins, I never looked it. Most would think that would be welcomed, but it made me extremely sad. The boys were always well behind the growth chart, thus so was I. I can’t tell you how many times I heard, “You are so tiny! Are there really two in there?!”
-I bought a ton of maternity clothes, and wore about half of them. Looking at them still makes me sad.
-We were supposed to have three additional baby showers, and those never happened. Being able to celebrate the pregnancy with all of our friends and family with a party wasn’t possible.
-Seeing pregnant women everywhere I go (and in the NICU, I swear, about half of the nurses are pregnant) makes me very emotional.
The toughest part since the boys have been born is that our friends kind of “tip toe” around the subject of them. Most people have no idea what we went through, what we are going through, and I know it scares them and they feel like they’re bothering us if they call or text to see how we’re doing/how the boys are doing. But we need our friends and family more than ever. Getting just a random text or voicemail from a friend makes us so happy.
Call me overemotional. Call me exhausted. I know my preemie-Moms readers understand where I am coming from!
I am so thankful to God and our doctors for getting the boys to where they are today. Both are so healthy, we have Jack home, and Sam is shortly behind. We have a long road ahead of us, but our boys are such fighters.
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Hi Trish—Great to hear that Jack is being such a good boy for you!!! I’m sure that Sam will be there shortly and you will all love finally being home together!! Although; it sounds as if Sam is in some pretty fancy digs of his own right now!!! Sounds like a place I’d like to stay too! Have a great weekend with the boys–wishing Adam well in his interviews. Love and hugs to everyone…..Carol
Good luck to papa Stibbe as he interviews! Love the new pictures. Thanks for keeping us posted on all the happenings. Great news about Jack- what a good little boy!! Sam sounds like he is in the penthouse huh!?! Looking forward as I’m sure you are too to hear that he is making his grand entrance through your front doors!! Take care! Jamie and gang
Hey Trisha – Thanks for the update! I love reading your blog. I was wondering how everyone was adapting to having Jack home and it sounds like all is going well. Maybe Sam will be home by his due date! Then life will become a whole differnt kind of busy. I know you will treasure and appreciate every moment! Take care and hi to Adam and hugs to the boys. I can’t wait to meet them in person! 🙂 Sue
Hi Trish & Adam: So glad to hear that Jack is being such a good boy! Soon Sam will join his brother at home-what a great day that will be! Until that time comes it sounds like he’s in a very nice place! We’re thinking about you and the boys all the time, keeping you in our prayers, and wishing you the best in this journey. Hope your interviews went well, Adam. We Love You – Nancy
Hey Trisha: I know kind of what you are going through. I too had bought maternity clothes to wear and ended up not wearing much of them. I also couldn ot have any baby showers (ether family or at work) because I was put on bedrest at 20 wks and remained on it until I had him on 10/17/10. That is 4 and a half months on bedrest with no one to talk to, socialize with, etc all day every day. So, I guess I understand what you are feeling to a certain extent (except for caring for preemies, which I admit I know nothing about). It all ended up exactly the way it was supposed to be. My advice: It was totally worth it in the end. Those sad and overwhelmed feelings will fade and it will be replaced with pure joy when both of your boys are in your arms. In the meantime, if you do need to talk, you know my email address. I will also request you to be my friend on facebook if you need to talk as well.And about missin out on baby showers: when I got back to work, we ended up having one at work and two with our families. So..it was worth it in the end. That is my unsolicited advice. I hope Sam comes home soon (it sounds like he is well on his way) and that Jack continues to grow and get stronger! J
Hey, Trish! I’ve been keeping up on the blog but haven’t left any comments yet…just wanted to let you know I’ve been praying for you and Adam and the boys. I’m so glad to hear they’re doing so well! Since I’ve never been through anything like what you are experiencing now, I can’t say that I know how you feel but I can imagine how bittersweet every milestone is and how exhausted you must be.
Hugs to you!
Trisha and Adam,
I just looked at your blog after not looking at it for awhile. I loved reading it! We loved the picture of the boys. Thanks for including us. I will continue to pray for all of you-interviews, having the boys home, etc. Take care-Barb